Thinking Thursday

This will be the third thinking post I’ve begun.  I have quite a bit on my mind and I’m having a helluva time picking something.  Join me in thinking about…

Things I don’t know about sex.

How in the world would one think about things they don’t know?!  I know a lot, but what I don’t know outnumbers what I do probably a thousand to one.  I haven’t done actual research into that statistic, but let’s just go with it.

Specifically, I am thinking about orgasms.  I like them.  Sex is one of my favorite activity, and I’ve had a lot of orgasms.  I get off easily, never really needed foreplay, and have multiple orgasms every time. I can get off by pure fucking, or a little clit action, or anal only, with just a leg… I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing, it’s just how I’m made. So I’ve never really THOUGHT about orgasms other than to think that I want one, I want more, when can I have one.

 

Apparently, this has not been my wisest course of action.  I should have been researching and thinking and practicing all of these (how many? 36 – 13 = 23) TWENTY THREE years.  I read Elle’s post yesterday and kind of felt like I’d been punched in the gut!  Seriously!  Squirting?…everyone?…welcomed?!

Now, I am certainly no prude (remember, sex is my favorite activity!) and I’ve seen quite a bit of porn.  I enjoy watching porn, actually.  I’ve seen girls squirting, but I always just thought… what the hell did I think?  I guess that it was rare? A weird, special talent? An accident of nature?  I’m not sure – I really never sat down to think about it.  It looks messy and dehydrating, so I just wanted those porn girls to grab a drink of water!

Turns out, I’ve been sheltered and am completely in the dark on this subject.  HOW DID THAT HAPPEN!?  Why has no one ever told me that this is something I should be trying to figure out?!  Make no mistake – I’ve had orgasms where I shake and shudder, where I feel like I am not even in my body anymore, where you could do ANYTHING to me and I just wouldn’t care, where I nearly pass out, where I utter sounds I didn’t even know I could make.  I’ve felt like I needed to pee, but didn’t need to pee… and fought that feeling with all that I had.  Maybe I was close?  Maybe I can do this? If only I’d known!

Of course, as soon as I read it, I forwarded the post to my Husband with the subject of my email “whaaaaattttttt?”.  He responded with a “wwwooooooooowwwwww’.  Dumbfounded, the both of us.

Today, I am thinking about this and wondering, what ELSE am I in the dark about?  What other mind-blowing activity am I missing out on? Tell me! Really, if you are reading this and you have some specific thing that you do, or like, that I maybe don’t know about, please share!  Orgasms make me happy and I’ve had a rollercoaster of a week (plus my Sir’s birthday is Tuesday and new activities will make Him happy, too!!)

By the way… squirting, full-body orgasm?  Challenge accepted!!

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72 thoughts on “Thinking Thursday

  1. Next weeks assignment !
    I’m getting a video link together for everyone as we speak… So you can be amazed! If you get on my blog put squirting in search bar… Lots of stories!
    So ill have squirting as next weeks homework! Yip.. ee… Pun intended!
    LK ❤🐇😛😛😛

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  2. Oh girl! I’ve been a bit sheltered myself! Grew up Little House on the Prairie style!
    When my Sir was home on leave from…overseas…nearly 6 years ago….we gota hotel room. It had been 14 months since we had been together…or even seen each other aside from the sketchy skype thatnever worked quite right. Needless to say…there was some pent up sexual energy! That was the first time I had a deep orgasm and the gush of fluid that accompanied it. I was mortified…like..wtf?!? He was in awe! The look on his face….priceless….like he’d just won the lottery. He was inthralled with his special new skill! Now he uses it., me all the time. My Sir grew up a lot less sheltered than me….
    I’m sure there are plenty of things that I don’t know about as well!
    I’ve come very close to having an orgasm by anal sex. Never quite get all the way there. But last time….when he..um…finished…and uh…pulled out….then it happened. I crumbled to my knees! Fell to the floor a shaking heap of jello! Any tips on how to get there while in the act?
    Btw…if you’ve felt that earth shattering orgasm rip through….accompanied by the urge to pee….you have been close. You won’t pee….promise….well….at least I don’t think you will! I never have! Elles post is right….you have to bare down….you may not see it come out unless he pulls out of you though. But you will feel it get soaking wet and slippery! Use towels!!! Have fun practicing!!!

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  3. Ok, I know how you feel. I didn’t start squirting until a little over a year ago. I will be 48 this month so, yeah, I had A LOT of years fighting the urge to pee not knowing what it was. Here’s one for you…My Sir and I have not watched porn all these years…really-truly-honestly! I was not a virgin when I got married (neither was he) and I have had a total of 6 partners starting from the age of 17, including my husband. I’ve been exposed to a fair amount of sex activities and positions, but in all that I couldn’t just let myself go

    I found out about squirting while looking up…ehem…WAYS TO HAVE BETTER ORGASMS! I was not like you…it took me forever to cum. My Sir spent a lot of time on me and never gave up. I also could NEVER orgasm from pentatrative sex and we only ever used just a little fingertip vibrator until about 8 months ago. I found out how much I was over thinking everything and that I was always holding my breath. My epiphany came right after reading 50 Shades and wanting to experience mind-blowing sex on a more regular basis. You can probably tell I’m a bit of a research junkie. If I can do this so can you! You already have so much more going for you than I did in that you’re highly orgasmic. That is an amazing gift and it means you are really in tune with your body. You’re right on the edge of squirting and the fact that you fight it really hard means it there for the taking. Make sure you have a good waterproof mattress cover, pile up the towels (you can never have enough) and GO FOR IT!

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    • Aww, Elle you give me such hope…I am like you were…so the fact that you are squirting now is something to look forward too…I never owned any kind of vibrator until about 11 months ago…lots of time to make up.😉…Maybe a few drinks will help me loosen up and I won’t be holding my breath or thinking about anything.

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      • I’m going to shout this from the rooftops….ACT LIKE AN ABSOLUTE SLUT! What I mean by that is to have the kind of confidence a stripper has with her sexiness and sensuality. Hold back NOTHING. Put it all out there. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! I have come to the mindset that I will do anything and everything…no holding back, no reservations, no preconceived outcome, no over thinking. It’s just him in charge and me melting into him in any way and every way possible. Compete abandon to him and the moment. I decided to let go and that’s when it started to come together (pun intended). We are all SO taking a pole dancing class together!

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      • Heck ya!!!! Pole dancing will be a blast!!!! Omg I can’t wait for Vegas. We are going to need more than 2 days.. Lol

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    • I have always enjoyed porn…I totally shocked my husband with that little tidbit when we were dating! I started the sex younger (that first time was not by choice, that was too young) and have had more partners than that. I hold my breath all the time! I try not to cum…I think that might be why my husband doesn’t withhold…I do that all on my own. I thought it was a problem for a long time…too many orgasms! Good grief, what was I thinking?!
      I’m not sure how my Husband would react if I squirted…

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    • Yes to pole dancing class!!! I hate porn…its gross. The pics and gifs I find for blogging….I don’t consider porn…though I’m sure some do. I would call it more….sexually exicit art….and sometimes funnies!

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      • There are probably many that would argue art vs. porn, on both sides of the fence. Not me…some porn I like, some I don’t. Some art I like, some I don’t. 🙂

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      • There’s some pretty raunchy hard core stuff out there and I was exposed to that a long time ago. My X was a piece of work so my husband never wanted to have me associate the X with him. I felt dirty for a long time because the X was a sexual bully. My husband’s love and tenderness helped me initially, but he was very afraid to get intense or rough with me. We’ve healed so much 16 months.

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      • Totally understandable that you wouldn’t like porn. Sorry you experienced that, but so glad you’ve done a lot of healing! My first time was not by choice and I proceeded to make many bad choices as my way of ‘dealing’ with it. Very few (2) people even know that happened because for so long I felt I brought it on myself. Anyway, not sure what my point was…

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      • I’m so sorry that happened to you. We were talking about liking/not liking porn. I understand about an unwanted first time and blaming yourself. I was violated by lesbians when I was 11-1/2…summer before 7th grade…damn slumber parties and older sisters of friends. One of these days I’ll disclose the full story. Maybe it will help some one. Sometime it seems like an alternate reality and I even wonder if I remember things properly. They are flashes in my mind at inopportune times. I find that as I’ve been opening up about these kinds of past issues I am better sexually. Amazing how pent up shame, guilt, and fear represses the good.

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      • Thanks, but no need to be sorry. No big…I just worry so much about big brothers when my girls go to sleepovers. :/ Ah, yes…porn…I totally get why people wouldn’t like it and why people do like it. I completely understand why you wouldn’t. I disconnected emotionally from sex for such a long time. I hear you…sometimes that night when I was 13 seems like somebody else…I refused to call it what it was…rape…for most of my adult life because, though it was forced, my body totally betrayed me and that was difficult to process, until very recently. Blah. Anyway. Porn…I can take it or leave it, but I do enjoy it on occasion. 🙂

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      • You didn’t stir anything up. As a matter of fact, I’m really glad it came up. I’ve held so much in for so long and it has never helped me. I’ve learned the hard way that you cannot do the same thing over and over expecting a different result….insanity! Part of healing for some is to expose things to the light so they aren’t crazy thoughts in your head anymore. Just the fact that I said it yesterday made me feel lighter this morning. I’ve never shared the full story with anyone not even my husband. I’ve been too ashamed. He has the basic understanding of what happened and 2 other people do, but no one knows everything. I won’t post anything without his full blessing, but it’s time I tell him every last detail. It was a year of confusion. To think that my daughter is the exact age when all this started happening to me sends chills down my spine. I’m different than my mother in that my mother never believed a word that came out of my mouth.

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      • My Husband doesn’t know the entire story. No one does, actually. I never told my parents or friends. I honestly believed I brought it on myself, especially when my body betrayed I figured I must have wanted it. I am crazy diligent with my girls about where they go, but you just never know…it was my good friend’s brother that I’d known for years. I’m glad you feel lighter this morning! I never intended to share that info but when everyone was stating their first time age, I felt compelled to explain mine. I try to be so matter-of-fact about it, it was so long ago, but sometimes I feel that feeling again…powerless, voiceless…maybe speaking about it is the way to be finally free of it. I’m sorry you went through that, too. Have a great day! Oh, it’s Friday…looking forward to your post! 🙂

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      • You have a wonderful day, too. Have to take the kids to school then I’ll finish my Friday post (fell asleep last night). Today’s will be a lot of fun!!! I know you can’t guess K and it was my Sir that suggested it 🙂

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      • I hear what you’re saying. My exhusband was big time into porn and made me watch it with him. It was that old 70s porn too. Everybody was so hairy! I much prefer those artistic gifs as well.

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    • Yes I agree waterproof cover or alot of towels.. I found out the hard way and we were on the couch with no protection.. Because who new! Lol!!’

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    • Elle, your comment gives me so much hope.. seriously! We’re still trying to master some of the stuff that sounds so easy for you girls… I’ve only ever been with my husband/Sir.. we met we were young. Sex was boring (I’m sad to say that and that was my fault) The sexual goddess inside was woken up after so many years of slumber when I started reading erotica… oh man, how I wanted that too. Now sex is on my mind permanently and it is so good, but there’s still a lot of firsts I need to experience. First orgasm year ago, first vibrator.. few months ago. Hey.. I”m not looking back though.. what we have now is amazing…. I’m ready to learn from you girls and my Sir is ready to take me all the way 🙂

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  4. I have been close, but obviously fought against the “urge to pee” on many occasions (it has actually happened to me quite frequently) My ability to orgasm changes by the day though. Some days, one touch and I’m done (I am also capable of orgasm from nipple stimulation alone on these day). Others, it doesn’t come at all. I too am an overthinker. I led a pretty sheltered childhood, but discovered masterbation at an almost alarming young age (tho was 17 before I actually became sexually active). I have had a variety of sexual encounters (a few more partners than Elle 😳) a lot of them were very similar. My Sir was also quite sheltered, even more so than me. With significantly less sexual experiences than I had (talk about feeling guilty when we finally started dating).
    I’m sure there is still nothing I know that you wouldn’t already know. Lol. I have been thinking a lot about the squirting thing the last few days though. It intrigues me to say the least.

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    • We all are different one day to the next and men are the same way. One day a man can get the hardest erection that makes him look enormous and that lasts and lasts and other days it’s there, but goes away pretty quickly. The partners that I had were all long term with frequent sex (one of them was an exhusband) so I had a lot of experimentation. My Sir had a lot more experience since he was 7 years older. I too started masturbating at a very young age…12 I believe and the first time it happened was during a math test in 7th grade! The pressure of the test, the cute boy sitting in front of me that I had a huge crush on, the way the seam of my Calvin Klein jeans were pressing just the right spot. All I had to do was move my hips a little and BAM! Every now and then it will happen for me and it’s happened while driving. I’m in a hurry, the road is bumpy, I’m commando and the seam of my jeans is pressing right there. Oh, I remember that I got a 95 on the test…not bad…and I got to make out with that boy on the bus on the way home from a field trip to Mystic Seaport, CT. My first french kiss. I had only one other kiss before that day.

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  5. I can see that you’re so much like the rest of us. We have all had many “firsts” and each of us come from our own point of reference. We all share a very special thing in common, which is that we all had a wake up call and found out that we have a submissive and a sexual goddess living inside of us. Your personal journey will be beautiful and unique. I’m really glad my words for able to give you sub-port. We are all here for each other.

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